{"id":75,"date":"2009-06-24T15:49:00","date_gmt":"2009-06-24T15:49:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.communicationcoach.ca\/blog\/?p=75"},"modified":"2015-04-10T17:33:38","modified_gmt":"2015-04-10T21:33:38","slug":"be-assertive-without-being-a-jerk-real-confidence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.communicationcoach.ca\/blog\/be-assertive-without-being-a-jerk-real-confidence\/","title":{"rendered":"Be Assertive without Being a Jerk! (Real Confidence)"},"content":{"rendered":"

A part of being confident is not giving into aggression – yours or anyone’s. We want to stand up for ourselves, but we don’t want to be pushy, be a bully, unreasonable or be perceived as a jerk. Kevin Hogan’s newsletter offered this excellent advice on being assertive without being aggressive:<\/p>\n

Do’s and Don’ts of Assertive Behavior<\/strong><\/p>\n

Do:
\nUse Intelligent Communication
\nExude Calm
\nUse Good Eye Contact
\nBe Aware of Body Language
\nUse a Confident Voice<\/p>\n

Don’t:
\nMake Unreasonable Demands
\nBe Hostile
\nUse a Haughty Voice or Manner
\nBelittle the Other Person
\nPut the Other Person on the Defensive
\nBuild Your Confidence to Become more Assertive<\/p>\n

In order to be assertive, you will need to develop confidence in yourself. It is easier if you try to take this one step at a time. Let’s start off by just doing one small step and work from there.<\/p>\n

I signed up years ago to receive interesting articles every week, like this one, from a true expert on communication, influence and persuasion.\u00a0 If interested please check it out below.<\/p>\n

Get the latest in persuasion news! Weekly ezine from Kevin Hogan. Yours free when you click here.<\/a>\"\"<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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