{"id":324,"date":"2010-09-21T18:23:00","date_gmt":"2010-09-21T18:23:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.communicationcoach.ca\/blog\/?p=324"},"modified":"2021-11-14T09:26:28","modified_gmt":"2021-11-14T14:26:28","slug":"speaking-with-confidence-the-3v-way","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.communicationcoach.ca\/blog\/speaking-with-confidence-the-3v-way\/","title":{"rendered":"Speaking with Confidence (the 3V Way)"},"content":{"rendered":"
Many people ask me how they can communicate with more confidence when they speak.\u00a0 They ask if it is a matter of vocabulary choice, of speaking louder, or dressing in a new suit.\u00a0 Today I would like to give some advice on that subject to you my readers.<\/span><\/div>\n
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First things first \u2013 understand that effective communication is not just about one aspect of communication.\u00a0 It is not enough to just start using \u201cpower words\u201d and expect everyone to bow down to your great communication skills, and give in to your new sales pitch.<\/span><\/div>\n
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My company name says it all:\u00a0 3V Communications<\/i>.\u00a0 You need to evaluate how you are communicating verbally, vocally and visually.\u00a0 Here are some techniques to use to help you speak confidently:<\/span><\/div>\n
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Verbal:\u00a0<\/strong> <\/span><\/div>\n
Do so-called power words help?\u00a0 Sure.\u00a0 It is always a good idea to have a deep vocabulary so that you can chose the correct word to give your speech or conversation a concise meaning.\u00a0 The key is to have a word or phrase that is presented simply, yet it is powerful.\u00a0 Do not ramble on trying to impress someone with your vocabulary and your knowledge of business lingo.\u00a0 Short and concise will produce a confident result.\u00a0 Also use strong, more committed words like \u201cyes\u201d, \u201cwill\u201d, \u201cable to\u201d, \u201c100%\u201d etc. and use superlatives as well.\u00a0\u00a0 For example:<\/span><\/div>\n
\u201cThe United States is 100% committed to protecting its citizens from terrorists.\u201d<\/span><\/em><\/div>\n
\u201cToronto is the most multicultural city I have ever seen.\u201d<\/span><\/em><\/div>\n
\u201cCubans are the best salsa dancers in the world.\u201d<\/span><\/em><\/div>\n
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Vocal:<\/span><\/strong><\/div>\n
Speak loud enough to be heard by everyone, without yelling.\u00a0 Speak from your diaphragm, which is an old actors\u2019 technique.\u00a0 Speak to the person at the back of the room.\u00a0 When you are speaking confidently you must speak at a medium pace that uses appropriate and dynamic stressing of your key words.\u00a0 We should also add eye contact and body language gestures to match our stress and intonation.<\/span><\/div>\n
Examples of important stressing:<\/span><\/div>\n
\u201cOur company wants to do business with you so let\u2019s make a deal today.\u201d <\/span><\/div>\n
(Too plain and not enough feeling<\/i>)<\/span><\/div>\n
\u201cOur company<\/span><\/b> wants<\/span><\/b> to do business with you so let\u2019s make a deal today<\/span><\/b>.\u201d\u00a0 <\/span><\/div>\n
(Too much emphasis on you and your company\u2019s desires.\u00a0 Could come off as pushy<\/i>.)<\/span><\/div>\n
\u201cOur <\/span><\/b>company wants<\/span><\/b> to do business<\/span><\/b> with you<\/span><\/b> so let\u2019s<\/span><\/b> make a deal today<\/span><\/b>.\u201d<\/span><\/div>\n
(Much more rhythmic and dynamic when spoken with a firm but friendly voice, and is balanced as well.)<\/i><\/span><\/div>\n
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Visual:<\/span><\/strong><\/div>\n
Visual communication makes up the biggest chunk of our intended feeling and attitude that is conveyed.\u00a0 To show confidence you must have great posture, use lots of eye contact, smile often (when appropriate<\/i>), have hand gestures that are in sync with your verbal and vocal communications, and you must know how to dress for success.\u00a0 You must understand first and foremost which clothes look and feel best for your body type (i.e. not too tight, not too baggy<\/i>) and you need to be dressed appropriately for the occasion.\u00a0 <\/span><\/div>\n
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If you are wearing an item of clothing that you have had for 5 or more years, think very carefully to yourself how others view it before you wear it again.\u00a0 It is important to realize that some people out there, particularly in the business world, have a keen sense of modern fashion and will judge you based on that if they see you are wearing a splashy tie, baggy slacks, scuffed shoes, a shirt with a collar that is the wrong size, shoulder seams that rest on your biceps, etc.\u00a0 <\/span><\/div>\n
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For women they also need to be aware of outdated fashion, wearing huge shoulder pads, wearing hair and make-up styles from the 1990s, heavy perfume, and once again not wearing body type-appropriate clothes.\u00a0 <\/span><\/div>\n
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Since I am not a fashion expert I will simply tell you that there are a number of fashion websites, blogs, books and magazines available as well as image consultants, should you need one.\u00a0 Most people don\u2019t, fortunately, if they listen to their trendy spouse or friend. I myself have gone through a number of changes in my dress over the last few years, all for the better I assume, because I listened to my fianc\u00e9e\/wife.
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If you are not sure how confidently you are coming across, maybe it is time to ask someone you trust to review your 3Vs and see if there is any way to speak and be seen with more confidence.\u00a0 If you need me, just let me know.<\/span><\/div>\n
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All the best,<\/span><\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Many people ask me how they can communicate with more confidence when they speak.\u00a0 They ask if it is a matter of vocabulary choice, of speaking louder, or dressing in a new suit.\u00a0 Today I would like to give some advice on that subject to you my readers. First things first \u2013 understand that effective […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"nf_dc_page":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":false,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[544,538,533,534],"tags":[540,637],"class_list":["post-324","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-body-language","category-confidence","category-interpersonal-communications","category-professional-communications","tag-3v-effect","tag-first-impressions"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack-related-posts":[],"jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.communicationcoach.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/324","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.communicationcoach.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.communicationcoach.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.communicationcoach.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.communicationcoach.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=324"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.communicationcoach.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/324\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1487,"href":"https:\/\/www.communicationcoach.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/324\/revisions\/1487"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.communicationcoach.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=324"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.communicationcoach.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=324"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.communicationcoach.ca\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=324"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}