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Bitch slap: How do you handle conflict? | In the Key of He

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Source: Bitch slap: How do you handle conflict? | In the Key of He

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Conflict management

I shared a radio interview with communications expert, Ric Phillips, of 3V Communications last year and I met with him this week. I always like talking to Ric because his background in social psychology and coaching gives him an interesting perspective.

During our visit, I told him about the intended bitch slap. We discussed what my options could have been, and Ric said that when conflict arises, there are really only four possible choices:

1.  Do nothing – maintain silence and do not react;
2.  Escape the scene or person(s) to avoid further conflict;
3. Change your attitude because you have a minimal chance of changing theirs;
4. Change your behaviour (see #3).”
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Source: Bitch slap: How do you handle conflict? | In the Key of He

Want a Raise? Look Better!

Interesting article today from Forbes. Discusses that as you gain weight or just not take care of yourself in general, your salary goes down too. This article specifically notes white women are subject to this type of discrimination.

If this is actually true, what can you do?

1 – attitude is everything. Be positive and energetic.

2 -Dress for success. Make sure you know which clothes highlight your body, and which colours and patterns to wear/not wear. If you don’t know, find an image consultant or trusted fashionable friend.

3 – Walk tall. Straighten up your posture, even when sitting.

4 – Talk tall. Don’t yell but speak with authority and in a loud clear voice.

5 – Smile. Smile smile smile! With that in mind, visit the dentist regularly.

6 – Read this article. Now.



Body Confidence: How to Like What You See in the Mirror

From childhood we are sold on an ideal image of beauty, one few of us ever see reflected when we look in the mirror. This article will show you how you can look in the mirror and despite the ideal, see only a beautiful you.

When you look in the mirror, what’s the first thing you notice, and how does it make you feel?

If you’re like most people, the first thing that catches your eye is probably your least favorite asset. If so, don’t worry you’re not alone. Here’s why.

Can you guess how much money is spent in just one year by advertisers to sell us on the concept of the “ideal” image of beauty? Well, I can’t either but I do know this—it’s a lot of money, certainly somewhere in the billions of dollars! So, technically, you can consider yourself brainwashed.

From your earliest childhood days—whether you played with He-Man or Barbie—you’ve been receiving constant, consistent images telling you what beauty is supposed to look like. Never mind that these images are for the most part, anatomically impossible! And, would you really want to look like them anyway? Honestly? I’m guessing probably not.

So, here’s how you can build your confidence with the body given to you:

  1. Look in the mirror
  1. This time, really look at yourself. Reflect on the compliments you have received.

Do people tell you how great your hair is?

How beautiful your eyes are?

That you have a really nice smile?

Try to see what they see – take them at their word.

  1. Stand far enough away from the mirror so that you can take it all in. What do you see? Find at least three positive things.
  1. Now, get up close. Really close. Look at your eyes—the irises. What colour are they? Are they all one colour or are there flecks of various colours? How would you describe them using positive analogies or adjectives?
  1. Now, smile. What does your smile convey? Warmth? Happiness?
  1. Find at least three characteristics you like best about yourself, and then accentuate them as you dress to go out. For example, if you love your eyes, make sure your hair doesn’t cover them up. Love your lips? Make sure to keep them soft and moisturized. Your hair? Get a flattering cut and condition it regularly to keep it shiny and healthy. In short, amplify what you like, and don’t worry about the parts that you don’t.

Here are some ways to do just that:

1 – Go shopping and bring a good friend. Ask them to help you pick out colours and clothes they think flatter you. Don’t worry if your first reaction is “that’s not me!” Experiment!

2 – Feel better about whatever it is you don’t like about yourself by picturing the absolute worst-case scenario. Exaggerate whatever it is you’re hung up on and blow it up in you mind until it’s comical. Then look in the mirror—not so bad anymore is it? Accept yourself for who you are, how you look, and focus on what really matters—the things about you that can’t be seen—your heart, mind and soul!

3 – What do you want people to praise you for? Is it really how you look? Probably not. You probably want people to think you’re funny, smart, nice, or generous—something along those lines right?

4 – Make a list of your positive personal qualities and characteristics. Then ask yourself, what’s more important? Get involved in activities that build on your personal characteristics—volunteer, join a club, take a class to sharpen a talent. These will help you emphasize and focus on the more important qualities that get you through life successfully, and with more fun.

Live life, love fully and laugh often!

What is the Key to Effective Communication?

What is the key to effective communication?

Confidence is the key to effective communication.

You may have an accent, you may not. You may be Hollywood-attractive, or just average. You may have studied a lot at school or in other courses, or you may be a hands-on type of learner.

None of these things are as influential as the ability to be a great communicator. Now for the cherry on top of the sundae – be a CONFIDENT great communicator.

Confidence builds competence, and competence builds confidence. Understanding what to say and how to say it will increase your self-esteem and ultimately your impact on the people around you at work or elsewhere. You do not want to look or sound meek and unsure, right? And I wouldn’t need to tell you how bad it could be if people thought you were too cocky, right? An appropriate balance must be projected so you can lead, succeed, manage and conquer your fears of having an average communication style.

Here is the good news. You have a last chance to attend the November 10 workshop. And here are the details, in case you or someone you know is interested in communicating with confidence inside and out.

Workshop – Communicate Your Confidence: Inside and Out

3V Communications is proud to be teaming up with The Image Factor to bring you this first time ever unique and exciting workshop Communicate Your Success: Inside and Out. If you have ever wanted to improve your confidence dramatically in one day, this is the workshop for you.

Part 1: 9:30-12:30. Ric leads you on a journey to discover how to build confidence, and how to project it with verbal, vocal and visual communication techniques.

Lunch break from 12:30-1:15.

Part 2: 1:15-4:15. Nadia helps you understand the importance of image, wardrobe, and first impression management. Learn to communicate your personal style and message.

For additional information or to register go to www.CommunicationCoach.ca.

Communicate Your Confidence: Inside & Out

Are you self-conscious when in front of people, not sure if you are saying the right thing?

Do you worry that you are not being heard or respected enough at work or by peers?

When was the last time you assessed how you looked, talked, walked and presented yourself to the public?

These are tough questions that we all have to ask ourselves. It is important to look good and feel good at all times to ensure success not only in our work lives, but in our personal lives as well. Confidence is the key to projecting that winning first impression and making it last. Are you communicating with confidence?

3V Communications is proud to be teaming up with Nadia Baboo of The Image Factor to bring you this unique and exciting workshop:

Communicate Your Confidence: Inside and Out

If you have ever wanted to improve your confidence dramatically in one day, this is the workshop for you!

When? Saturday, November 10th 2007 from 9:30am to 4:15pm

Where? 268 Adelaide St W. (@ John St.), home of BizLaunch

Why? To dramatically improve your confidence, first impression and overall image.

Who? Anyone can join. Students, recent grads, entrepreneurs, managers, employees, new Canadians, singles, divorcees, fun people, shy people, anyone!

How much? $125.00 paid in full before November 6th.

How to register and pay: Just click the Buy Now icon to use secure online payment, using PayPal, Visa or MasterCard. You will be instantly registered!

Alternatively, you may issue a cheque to 3V Communications. Contact Ric to discuss delivery or mailing of cheque before November 6th at 416.429.7935.

BONUS: When you make the decision to enhance your confidence and image with us, you will not only get all the materials we provide at the workshop, you will also get a free one-hour assessment of your personal image and style with Nadia Baboo AND a free one-hour assessment of your personal communication style with Ric Phillips.

That’s 2 free hours of personal attention and evaluation! After a 6 hour workshop and then 2 hours of assessments, you will be a master of your image and confidence!

We look forward to meeting you and taking you to the next level of confident communications.

3V Communications

ric @CommunicationCoach.ca